The Candy Bar

Ask anyone who has lost someone they love-the big moments are hard (holidays, birthdays, anniversaries). But the little moments are hard too.

One thing that Tom occasionally talked about was how much he loved chocolate covered Payday bars. They had stopped making them several years ago and we had looked unsuccessfully several times to find one. I had even tried looking online at specialty candy places to order one for a holiday or birthday gift for him. Just a couple of weeks after he passed away, I walked into a convenience store and saw a big display of “new” chocolate Payday bars. Tears immediately started streaming down my face in the middle of the store. It just seemed so unfair. Tom would never get to eat another chocolate Payday bar. There are a million little moments like these when you’re grieving. Like the first time I did laundry afterwards and his last set of clothes was there. Or when I had a weird dream and woke up with the thought “I can’t wait to tell Tom about that dream”.
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Savor those big and small moments. They eventually are just memories, and those memories will mean the world to you.