The best Thing Anyone Said

​I have been meeting with the chaplain from the hospice we used for Tom and doing some grief counseling. One of the things we have talked about is how each person’s grief is different; there is not one right way to grieve. This got me to thinking about the things people say to those who are grieving. There are things that have been said to me that really upset or bothered me. I wanted to write a post about “what not to say”. But then I realized that what bothers me might actually be comforting to someone else. So I have no right to say “Don’t say this”. I can tell you one thing that was probably the best thing that anyone said to me after Tom died. When I called one of his “bros” (yes, they actually called each other “bro” lol) to let him know that Tom had passed, he simply said to me “We love him and we are going to miss him”. It was probably the most beautiful and comforting thing that anyone said to me that day. I was so thankful for Tom’s friendship with those guys.
Thank you to all of you who are walking with me through this grief. I am truly grateful having so many wonderful people supporting me.