The answer is no. No, I am not being selfish.
In the almost three years since Tom's diagnosis, I have often felt like I've lost a lot of myself. I have put so much time into taking care of him and meeting his needs (and rightfully so) that I have often forgotten to take care of myself. I finally realized that I could not continue to take care of him if I am not taking care of myself. It seems common sense, but in reality, it is hard to actually do.
However, if I don't take care of myself, I will not be able to take care of him. That's the reality. So doing this project is helping me focus on taking care of myself so I can continue to take care of him.