Today’s GriefShare email really struck home.
This is a paragraph from the email:
When you are in shock and you feel powerless to cope and unable to think straight, understand that you don’t have to at that moment. Yet because of this, it is wise not to make any major changes in your life or decide on any important issues until your shock has subsided.
This describes how I feel so much of the time lately. Powerless to cope and unable to think straight! Like I just don’t know what to do. It’s why experts say not to make any big decisions for at least a year after a loss; such as selling your home and moving. I’ve had a lot of people ask me if I’m going to move away from Pond Creek now that Tom’s gone. Before he got sick, Tom and I had talked about moving at some point in the future since the kids were all grown and moved away. We had talked about wanting to be closer to the grandkids. Here’s where we landed with that (and where I am at with it right now). Our house is paid for (I think we paid it off right before Tom was diagnosed with cancer). So our (and now my) living expenses here are minimal; basically utilities and insurance. I know I couldn’t rent a house (or even an apartment) for what those cost. I don’t know what the future holds, but for now, I plan to stay here. I am following wise counsel and not making any big life decisions for at least a year after my loss.