“Are you married or single?”
It was a question on my paperwork when I started my new job. I just took a deep breath and checked “single”; even though in my mind, I’m still married. But I guess for legal and tax purposes, I’m single.
Then yesterday, I was asked the question out loud. I could not bring myself to say single. Finally, I just said “I’m a widow”. Then I figured she could check whichever box she needed to check, and I wouldn’t have to know. It got me thinking, how do other widows/widowers handle this question? I mean, I will forever be married to Tom in my heart. But I guess I have many more years ahead of me answering this question.